Well, he still sounds a bit whistful or at least complimentary about Frau von Katte even after getting married, as in this entry:
Oh, sure, he still likes her as a person. But I think the more time goes on after he's married, the more reconciled he is to how his life turned out, and the more he starts rewriting history in his head.
I have to say, Lehndorff, bringing up the age factor of the newly wedded here is rich given your own marital plans and history. Though the age gap between both of his actual wives and him were way more standard for the times, i.e. the bride below or only slightly above twenty, the man between thirty and forty.
Yeah, I was drafting a reply to cahn about normal age gaps for the period: the man being in his 30s or 40s and the woman being below or only slightly above 20 is standard. Lehndorff never comments on that. He pretty consistently comments on it when a *really* old man, like in his 60s or 70s, gets married to a much younger woman. And if I'm remembering correctly, he wasn't the only one of his time to think that the age gap between a 17-yo Catherine du Rosey and a 40-something Ludolf was normal, but that a 60-year-old man marrying a teenager, especially a younger one, was squicky.
good lord, that doesn't make the bargaining and pressuring for little Catherine du Rosey less crass.
Right, or less damaging to little Catherine, which is the most important thing in my book.
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Re: Lehndorff's one who got away
Date: 2025-01-12 01:10 pm (UTC)Oh, sure, he still likes her as a person. But I think the more time goes on after he's married, the more reconciled he is to how his life turned out, and the more he starts rewriting history in his head.
I have to say, Lehndorff, bringing up the age factor of the newly wedded here is rich given your own marital plans and history. Though the age gap between both of his actual wives and him were way more standard for the times, i.e. the bride below or only slightly above twenty, the man between thirty and forty.
Yeah, I was drafting a reply to
good lord, that doesn't make the bargaining and pressuring for little Catherine du Rosey less crass.
Right, or less damaging to little Catherine, which is the most important thing in my book.