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Oct. 28th, 2014 07:43 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
cahnWell! So now I can finally talk about why I disappeared from life for a couple of months there. We are going to have a baby! Next March! As far as ultrasounds and cell-free DNA tests (which are kind of awesomely cool, by the way) can tell, he is healthy! And also with a Y chromosome! I… had not realized how much I was steeling myself for this baby not to be healthy until it turned out he was. I feel like I can finally actually be excited about it!
First-trimester nausea really, really sucked this time around (hence the disappearing from life... er... if you asked for a beta in those months, I want to repeat that I am really really sorry for disappearing!). It is possible that there was a psychological component there, stemming from being so done with the first trimester after going through it two times in a year, but man, life is so much better now that that's over with.
I am sort of panicked about having a boy and all the baggage that comes with being a boy. I told D that we'll have to buy some baby dolls for him now (E never got any dolls, although she has a bunch of stuffed animals). One person, whom I very very much like but who definitely has a plethora of unexamined gender assumptions, said to me, "Oh, buying toys for boys is really fun — you can buy them Legos and Lincoln Logs and —" "Um, we… already have all those…" I feel like I have a better handle on girl baggage?
On one hand, E is old enough to do things for herself, which will make things just about infinitely easier with a new baby. On the other hand, it means that I am no longer at all used to not sleeping through the night, changing diapers, teaching a kid how to feed himself and put on his own clothes and… oh man, it's making me tired just thinking about it. What were we thinking again? Oh, right, that E is the cutest thing in possibly the entire universe and that in time maybe, hopefully, if all goes well, we could have a second incredibly cute four-year-old. I hope!
First-trimester nausea really, really sucked this time around (hence the disappearing from life... er... if you asked for a beta in those months, I want to repeat that I am really really sorry for disappearing!). It is possible that there was a psychological component there, stemming from being so done with the first trimester after going through it two times in a year, but man, life is so much better now that that's over with.
I am sort of panicked about having a boy and all the baggage that comes with being a boy. I told D that we'll have to buy some baby dolls for him now (E never got any dolls, although she has a bunch of stuffed animals). One person, whom I very very much like but who definitely has a plethora of unexamined gender assumptions, said to me, "Oh, buying toys for boys is really fun — you can buy them Legos and Lincoln Logs and —" "Um, we… already have all those…" I feel like I have a better handle on girl baggage?
On one hand, E is old enough to do things for herself, which will make things just about infinitely easier with a new baby. On the other hand, it means that I am no longer at all used to not sleeping through the night, changing diapers, teaching a kid how to feed himself and put on his own clothes and… oh man, it's making me tired just thinking about it. What were we thinking again? Oh, right, that E is the cutest thing in possibly the entire universe and that in time maybe, hopefully, if all goes well, we could have a second incredibly cute four-year-old. I hope!
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Date: 2014-10-28 04:17 pm (UTC)Does it have to be dolls? Some boys get unnecessary crap for stuffed animals.... (Am reminded because Reason explained things we passed this morning to a small stuffed moose, which is new from my mother and thus filling the baby role.) Perhaps also nearer for treating both children equally, since E may want a doll if her little brother gets one!
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Date: 2014-10-30 01:07 pm (UTC)It wouldn't have to be a doll, and we certainly have a plethora of stuffed animals, which E loves. I wouldn't mind getting E a doll, for that matter (she actually has some play baby bottles, though she mostly uses them to show "look mommy, when you turn them upside down they look like they're empty!") but she's never shown any interest in them whatsoever... she's just started doing imaginative play with her Lego figurines. (Apparently all of them are having a drunken frat party on the roof of her Lego house, which is... a little disturbing).