actually I felt great, both being on my own and getting to know random new people.
See, I was relating right up until the pulling teeth getting to know random new people. :D
There might be something hormonal/phermonal to the mother/young child bond, though.
According to all neuroscientific findings I'm aware of, there is (oxytocin playing a major role). I have such child-antipathy I will never find out, though. ;)
I have a sneaking suspicion that I would be OK, or at least more OK than one should be under the circumstances.
It sounds like you would be! I have to say I like my wife for normal human reasons, inside jokes and shared interests and being comfortable talking to each other and all that, but the only reason we're living together is because she has disabling health problems and that makes it easier for me to help (and we're legally married because that was the only way to legally live together).
Now, pretty much everyone else on the planet can go deal with their own problems somewhere else, far away from me, so there's that, but the neurochemistry my relationship with her taps into is heavily weighted toward the same problem-solving mechanisms that, say, grad school tapped into. I get some of the pair-bonding experience with her, I won't say I don't, but it seems to be a fraction of what you find in a normal relationship.
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Date: 2019-09-16 01:10 am (UTC)See, I was relating right up until the
pulling teethgetting to know random new people. :DThere might be something hormonal/phermonal to the mother/young child bond, though.
According to all neuroscientific findings I'm aware of, there is (oxytocin playing a major role). I have such child-antipathy I will never find out, though. ;)
I have a sneaking suspicion that I would be OK, or at least more OK than one should be under the circumstances.
It sounds like you would be! I have to say I like my wife for normal human reasons, inside jokes and shared interests and being comfortable talking to each other and all that, but the only reason we're living together is because she has disabling health problems and that makes it easier for me to help (and we're legally married because that was the only way to legally live together).
Now, pretty much everyone else on the planet can go deal with their own problems somewhere else, far away from me, so there's that, but the neurochemistry my relationship with her taps into is heavily weighted toward the same problem-solving mechanisms that, say, grad school tapped into. I get some of the pair-bonding experience with her, I won't say I don't, but it seems to be a fraction of what you find in a normal relationship.