precisely that I don't experience loneliness, don't need friends, don't particularly seek friends out. Friendships happen or they don't, and I don't miss friends or make an effort to keep in touch when we part ways
I'm quite like this, too. I attributed it to being an only child with an active imagination, who stayed home with family members instead of going to day care when I was little -- so that by the time I got to school and my first group of peers that I was around consistently, I already knew I didn't NEED friends to be happy and fulfilled.
I did have friends -- people who latched on to me, or people who were interesting -- but even the ones I liked very much I didn't really miss, as such, when we moved continents at the age of 11. Even as an adult, I'm very bad at keeping in touch with the friends I have (unless they live on LJ and are beamed into my laptop in one convenient feed). And when I miss people, I miss, probably more than anything, the person I am when hanging around them -- if that makes sense? I have to, like, remind myself to call my parents/grandparents -- whom I love very much and am very close to! -- because I know they expect it and would be hurt if I didn't. But I have no internal driver to reach out to them, even though I enjoy spending time with my family.
But, yeah, I was also unbothered by whether I had friends / an in-group at all levels of schooling, and, even though I had school people I was friendly with, and two close friends outside of school, spent a lot of high school hanging out with my teachers, because they were more INTERESTING. I do miss the teachers, but mostly in the sense that I would like to see them again and show them the person I grew up into, have them meet my kids, that kind of thing.
(Also an engineer from a line of engineers, incidentally :P)
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Date: 2019-09-15 11:19 pm (UTC)I'm quite like this, too. I attributed it to being an only child with an active imagination, who stayed home with family members instead of going to day care when I was little -- so that by the time I got to school and my first group of peers that I was around consistently, I already knew I didn't NEED friends to be happy and fulfilled.
I did have friends -- people who latched on to me, or people who were interesting -- but even the ones I liked very much I didn't really miss, as such, when we moved continents at the age of 11. Even as an adult, I'm very bad at keeping in touch with the friends I have (unless they live on LJ and are beamed into my laptop in one convenient feed). And when I miss people, I miss, probably more than anything, the person I am when hanging around them -- if that makes sense? I have to, like, remind myself to call my parents/grandparents -- whom I love very much and am very close to! -- because I know they expect it and would be hurt if I didn't. But I have no internal driver to reach out to them, even though I enjoy spending time with my family.
But, yeah, I was also unbothered by whether I had friends / an in-group at all levels of schooling, and, even though I had school people I was friendly with, and two close friends outside of school, spent a lot of high school hanging out with my teachers, because they were more INTERESTING. I do miss the teachers, but mostly in the sense that I would like to see them again and show them the person I grew up into, have them meet my kids, that kind of thing.
(Also an engineer from a line of engineers, incidentally :P)