I feel like I read somewhere that this is a known relationship pitfall for Asperger's-type-A-ish people
Interesting! That does not surprise me at all. And now I'm wondering if there's any reason to parse Fritz as on the spectrum. My first guess is no, but deeeefinitely type A, like, named his palace "I would like to have a type B moment from time to time but idk how, HALP." :P
even if you are not on the spectrum, you certainly have some traits!
Indeed, to the point where I used to wonder if I was on the spectrum. Fritz and I probably have in common the fact that we're not on the spectrum but have a few overlapping traits. (I feel like I might have more than he did, but I'll have to keep that in mind and see if I come up with more examples for him.)
Huh, I wonder whether your friend and D are similar in some ways. D also spent... many... years in grad school, quite happily.
17+? Because that's what we're up to with my friend. :P He's actually dropped out and gotten a full-time job, but he's still "working on the dissertation."
It occurred to me when writing that comment the other day that both my wife and my best friend made it as far as working on their dissertations before dropping out of their PhD program. That may be the sweet spot for me with between someone who's got enough interests and intellectual curiosity in common with me for us to connect, and yet is laid back enough that our drives don't start either coming into conflict or leading us in opposite directions.
I can totally see Fritz falling in love with Katte because, well, adolescent, and Katte just happening to be the right sort of person for him (whereas as an adult, and with more choices, he might have gravitated towards the "unhealthy" Voltaire-like relationships :)
This is really interesting and makes a lot of sense! Poor Fritz. My own engagement with Fritz and Katte in my fiction has been that they may not have been Right for Each Other (whatever that means) from the start, but once Katte demonstrated his total devotion in such an unignorable way, Fritz is much more committed to making the relationship work and much less likely to blame Katte for random shit. This is especially true in my a) reincarnation AU, where Fritz remembers Katte dying for him, and b) imprisonment AU, where Fritz inherits and pardons Katte after 10 years in prison.
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Re: Katte and Fritz (and mildred_of_midgard) psychology
Date: 2019-09-20 04:58 am (UTC)Interesting! That does not surprise me at all. And now I'm wondering if there's any reason to parse Fritz as on the spectrum. My first guess is no, but deeeefinitely type A, like, named his palace "I would like to have a type B moment from time to time but idk how, HALP." :P
even if you are not on the spectrum, you certainly have some traits!
Indeed, to the point where I used to wonder if I was on the spectrum. Fritz and I probably have in common the fact that we're not on the spectrum but have a few overlapping traits. (I feel like I might have more than he did, but I'll have to keep that in mind and see if I come up with more examples for him.)
Huh, I wonder whether your friend and D are similar in some ways. D also spent... many... years in grad school, quite happily.
17+? Because that's what we're up to with my friend. :P He's actually dropped out and gotten a full-time job, but he's still "working on the dissertation."
It occurred to me when writing that comment the other day that both my wife and my best friend made it as far as working on their dissertations before dropping out of their PhD program. That may be the sweet spot for me with between someone who's got enough interests and intellectual curiosity in common with me for us to connect, and yet is laid back enough that our drives don't start either coming into conflict or leading us in opposite directions.
I can totally see Fritz falling in love with Katte because, well, adolescent, and Katte just happening to be the right sort of person for him (whereas as an adult, and with more choices, he might have gravitated towards the "unhealthy" Voltaire-like relationships :)
This is really interesting and makes a lot of sense! Poor Fritz. My own engagement with Fritz and Katte in my fiction has been that they may not have been Right for Each Other (whatever that means) from the start, but once Katte demonstrated his total devotion in such an unignorable way, Fritz is much more committed to making the relationship work and much less likely to blame Katte for random shit. This is especially true in my a) reincarnation AU, where Fritz remembers Katte dying for him, and b) imprisonment AU, where Fritz inherits and pardons Katte after 10 years in prison.