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Your parents, as I have often thought, are so sensible, especially in comparison to mine :) I expect this conversation is not going to go at all well with my parents (there's a reason why I haven't had it with them, laying aside that my sister has still to read the book, which she really wants to) and that there will be a lot of obfuscating and emotional reactions on their side. (My sister is better than I am at cutting through that kind of thing. I tend to roll my eyes and give up.)

What is the difference between full-time home health aides and hospice care? Gawande did mention hospice care as something that allowed people to stay in familiar places and have some autonomy instead of being uprooted.

I haven't even thought about angry paranoid dementia :( Ugh. My dad's father had moderate dementia but wasn't angry or paranoid, and neither was D's aunt -- although she was just very confused and sad all the time, which was rather less hard to deal with but maybe more heartbreaking.

Hm, I'll have to look up that book. My dad would like it :)