A little disjointed even compared to my usual, because typing on phone:
It's everything where there's instant feedback on whether the answer is right or wrong. Not just academics. She was always really unhappy with the kind of game/magic trick where you'd have to pick which hand had the coin or whatever. Or rock paper scissors. She won't do those.
She doesn't have tests, but she does have class problem sets at school (not formally graded on a point system) and homework for her auxiliary class (graded on a point system). Same deal. There is an "Alcumus" problem generator that she used to do sometimes in class and still uses sometimes for homework, where it tells you immediately whether the answer is right or wrong, and she hates it and keeps trying to get a parent or teacher to check her work. Some of her homework is graded manually and she gets it back a week or two later. This she is fine with. A couple years ago she would just ignore it; now she is at the level where she'll actually look at her score and comments without freaking out, but that week in between definitely makes a difference.
She also won't do Duolingo for the same reasons.
It's okay when it's her own self assessment, like a computer program throwing an error or her self checking revealing that she did something wrong. Frustrating sometimes, but what I would view as a typical amount of frustration.
Alcumus gives "half credit" if you get the problem wrong and redo, and E objected because she said, why is it that everyone spends so much time saying wrong answers don't matter, but now they do? So it is a message she has been hearing! I did talk to her about how it's age appropriate to hear it's fine to be wrong when you're a kid, but as an adult there's definitely a premium to be able to do things correctly, and her age group is in a transitional stage right now.
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It's everything where there's instant feedback on whether the answer is right or wrong. Not just academics. She was always really unhappy with the kind of game/magic trick where you'd have to pick which hand had the coin or whatever. Or rock paper scissors. She won't do those.
She doesn't have tests, but she does have class problem sets at school (not formally graded on a point system) and homework for her auxiliary class (graded on a point system). Same deal. There is an "Alcumus" problem generator that she used to do sometimes in class and still uses sometimes for homework, where it tells you immediately whether the answer is right or wrong, and she hates it and keeps trying to get a parent or teacher to check her work. Some of her homework is graded manually and she gets it back a week or two later. This she is fine with. A couple years ago she would just ignore it; now she is at the level where she'll actually look at her score and comments without freaking out, but that week in between definitely makes a difference.
She also won't do Duolingo for the same reasons.
It's okay when it's her own self
assessment, like a computer program throwing an error or her self checking revealing that she did something wrong. Frustrating sometimes, but what I would view as a typical amount of frustration.
Alcumus gives "half credit" if you get the problem wrong and redo, and E objected because she said, why is it that everyone spends so much time saying wrong answers don't matter, but now they do? So it is a message she has been hearing! I did talk to her about how it's age appropriate to hear it's fine to be wrong when you're a kid, but as an adult there's definitely a premium to be able to do things correctly, and her age group is in a transitional stage right now.