Lehndorff as a diplomat: would ignore the scandals and go in a corner to talk about books!
Well, to be fair, he'd also talk about the scandals - otherwise no diary entry about Marwitz years after the fact, among others - , but not while they were happening!
I wonder how much of that was because he *couldn't* go in the army and so didn't get all the manliness stuff drummed into him. I mean, probably not all of his niceness is due to that! But maybe some of it?)
I do think there's a connection. No drilling from early youth onwards makes for a very different socialization. Re: his mother, let's not forget he was keenly aware he was the unfavourite among his siblings there - he'd been born after his father died, she couldn't cope and handed him over to his grandmother at first, and then he got crippled and she couldn't cope with that, either, hence various painful treatments to put his leg and foot straight again until that was given up - and so her approval and love was doubly important to him. (When she's in Berlin while it's occupied, he's incredibly worried and very grateful to Peter Keith's widow for taking his mother in.) The rare occasion where he does argue with her: when she tells his (first) wife that her bloodline is inferior to the Lehndorff clan's.
Re: The Lehndorff Report: 1776
Well, to be fair, he'd also talk about the scandals - otherwise no diary entry about Marwitz years after the fact, among others - , but not while they were happening!
I wonder how much of that was because he *couldn't* go in the army and so didn't get all the manliness stuff drummed into him. I mean, probably not all of his niceness is due to that! But maybe some of it?)
I do think there's a connection. No drilling from early youth onwards makes for a very different socialization. Re: his mother, let's not forget he was keenly aware he was the unfavourite among his siblings there - he'd been born after his father died, she couldn't cope and handed him over to his grandmother at first, and then he got crippled and she couldn't cope with that, either, hence various painful treatments to put his leg and foot straight again until that was given up - and so her approval and love was doubly important to him. (When she's in Berlin while it's occupied, he's incredibly worried and very grateful to Peter Keith's widow for taking his mother in.) The rare occasion where he does argue with her: when she tells his (first) wife that her bloodline is inferior to the Lehndorff clan's.