*nods* That all makes sense! I also really am intrigued by the idea of alchemy as a potential problem here.
I was also clearly projecting a bit, because my sister is absolutely the "people-pleasing suffering-in-silence dying-inside" sort and the stress has caught up with her. (She's in therapy for all of this, which has helped the mental issues but the physical ones are unfortunately harder to deal with.)
(Connecting back to that post on your DW a while back, she absolutely fits the profile you talked about there: "I'm having tentative thoughts that given environmental stressors and/or after drawing the short straw with regard to mental health genes, people who put other people's needs first are less likely to perpetuate the cycle of abuse and more likely to end up crippled by anxiety/depression/self-esteem problems.")
Anyway, I'm very glad that this doesn't seem to be the case for Fredersdorf! (Although I wish he could have been healthier, sigh. Stop mucking around with mercury, Fredersdorf!)
Re: Fredersdorf and stress
I was also clearly projecting a bit, because my sister is absolutely the "people-pleasing suffering-in-silence dying-inside" sort and the stress has caught up with her. (She's in therapy for all of this, which has helped the mental issues but the physical ones are unfortunately harder to deal with.)
(Connecting back to that post on your DW a while back, she absolutely fits the profile you talked about there: "I'm having tentative thoughts that given environmental stressors and/or after drawing the short straw with regard to mental health genes, people who put other people's needs first are less likely to perpetuate the cycle of abuse and more likely to end up crippled by anxiety/depression/self-esteem problems.")
Anyway, I'm very glad that this doesn't seem to be the case for Fredersdorf! (Although I wish he could have been healthier, sigh. Stop mucking around with mercury, Fredersdorf!)